Don't do anything to the fresh water. Use RO/DI water with nothing added. Don't add any kind of buffers as they will affect the parameters in your tank. Only pure water evaporates so only add pure water.
As far as stress from salinity swings, maybe your looking too deep for problems that usually don't happen. Just top off every day. If you have a 30g tank and need to top off a quart/day, that's not a problem. Before I setup my auto top off for my 125, I would add about 1 gal in the AM and 1 gal in the PM in the cool months and in the summer with the fans going and/or AC going, it would be up to 2 gal or more each time. I never had problems.
Your missing something on the T5HO heat vs MH heat. If you have 250 watts of T5HO's over your tank, they give off the same amount of heat as a 250w MH. The difference being the heat is spread out over the entire lenght of the T5 bulb where it's all concentrated at the bulb in a MH. T5's need fans just like MH's. Depending on the setup, some people have more heat issues using T5HO's than using MH.